Here’s something you probably didn’t expect to read on a therapy site.

Stress is a good thing.

At least it can be. It can motivate us to plan, organize, and perform. Good results, lead to good feelings. The more problems we tackle, the more we can be sure that we will successfully handle our next challenge. If you think for a moment about something about you that makes you feel proud, chances are you got that way because you successfully managed some obstacle or solved some problem.  Our sense of ourselves is so closely tied to our experience of stress that we struggle to define ourselves without considering our ability to handle it.  And we can experience problematic stress in so many ways.

When we fail stress can diminish our belief in ourselves. It can teach us to expect poor outcomes, and likewise, more failures. 

-We can learn to break up that kind of problem thinking.-

Even when we succeed, we might still complain about stress.  Our over-scheduled lives can leave us feeling burdened, worn-out, or exhausted.  We can feel chronic stress that is relatively constant, such as an overbearing job or household responsibilities.  We can feel acute stress such as a trauma, an attack or major unexpected change.  Terrible events are sometimes unavoidable and the suffering that results can be difficult to manage on our own.

Therapy can teach us to recognize the benefits of our stressors, and how to manage the negative effects in ways that leave us feeling more complete, and empowered to handle future problems.